The Border Collie Chronicles

Observations from (arguably) the World's Smartest Dogs;
(but, without question, the bestest friends!)
or, Life As We Understand It, as told from dad's shop.



Posted November 6, 2014

 

 

Friends …

Vs. Buddies …

Vs. Acquaintances …

and OTHERS!

By Gall

 

We all have folks that we call friends, and I know that we all also have buddies and acquaintances too … but, how much time have you given to differentiate them, or do you need to?!!  Maybe, you haven’t had to give a whole lot of thought to it!  That’s cool.

 

All of us use the term “friend” differently – dad has always used it pretty dang sparingly.  He has a bunch of folks that he “knows”; there are some folks that he “works with”; he has a pretty good sized group of “buddies” (which, certainly, come in varying degrees) … but, there haven’t been, and aren’t, too many “friends”.  The way he sees it (and me too) … there is a differentiation in the terms.  Dad absolutely appreciates all of these folks – regardless of the categories - (if not, he would just simply not associate or talk with them -- and if you know dad, you know that is right!).  Needless to say the latter two categories are, without a doubt, some of the most important to him!

 

We all need to continue to culture and cultivate all of these relationships!  We tend to get so busy and caught up in our own “things” and “deals” that we don’t necessarily stay in touch like we ought to!  One good thing that we have going for us nowadays is texting – you can shoot a short blip out to your “pupps” (or “peeps”) just to let them know that you’re thinking of them without taking up too much of your precious time … or theirs!  But wait … maybe sometimes that is a “cop out” … if you’re one of their peeps, they might want to HEAR you – you might have more wisdom to spew out than your thumbs are capable of producing (of course, those of you folks with i-phones have Siri, droid users have Google Now … while some of the more sophisticated folks (i.e. – that would be the Windows Phone users, like dad) have Cortana!!![i] … but more on that at a later time! – those of you that got the late night email might already know how that story is gonna end up!)!!!

 

The idea for this little rant came about from watching dad wait on a “buddy” back in the summer who was supposed to come help him load an appliance for a mutually beneficial event (mom-D could have done it, but she was off playing in Obama-land and therefore wasn’t around to provide her ALMOST always excellent assistance!) … well, this guy flaked out[ii] (at least he called and let dad know that he was flaking out … AGAIN!).  While we sat watching dad contemplate on how he could load this bulky, but not terribly heavy object into the back of ol’ greeny (and we contemplated how we could help without the use of opposable thumbs – dang, I believe that that is the ONLY downfall of dogs!) by himself and thought … “What the Fahrenheit (he didn’t really use that word though) … we give away free beer and food, and it isn’t really all that heavy … maybe we can get some help from someone!”  He then agreed with himself with enthusiasm!  Then he thought about it a little longer and waited – he didn’t really want to bug anyone, heck they were probably busy doing something that they wanted to do and sometimes a fella just ought to be able to take care of his own stuff. So he started thinking again on how to load it himself – he just about had it all figured out when our “elderly” neighbor to the south came cruising through our gate (he has his own “clicker”) in his little ol’ golf cart!  Dad had already gotten the appliance to the rear of greeny by that time, and our neighbor saw what dad was thinking about doing and just simply jumped out of the golf cart, came over, and helped dad load it up (he did take the light side though!)  He didn’t say anything, but he did get back into his little ol’ golf cart, drove on to dad’s shop to get himself a beer!!  Dad had to get his own!

 

You see, I know, without a doubt, that dad has folks that he “knows”, folks that he “works with”, most of his “buddies”, and absolutely his “friends” that all he would have to have done was to put out a call and they would’ve been there in a flash to help, and most all of dad’s acquaintances, et al, would only need to call – dad will be right there to help them … without a doubt!  WTF!!  (That means “What The Fahrenheit!”)!!  One of dad’s biggest weaknesses is to call on other folks to help – I think that characteristic really aggravates the “elderly” neighbor!

 

But … you see … that brings up a whole new category - Brothers[iii] (reference also) [iv]!!

 

Some folks may think that brothers are obtained only by birth … all of us on this place FULLY DISAGREE!!!  Brothers CAN BE and ARE by birth, but these relationships can ALSO be cultivated!  This cultivation has no boundaries … age, sex, religion, color … it just doesn’t matter … since it’s cultivated!  These are Acquaintances that grow into Buddies, transform into Friends, and then blossom into Brothers!!  This is the CLOSE circle of friends!  For dad (and all of us BCs), those would be PVF, JCC, DZH, and of course, RJG (or as some know him … RG1 - the illegitimate father of RG3, also RG Esquire or the Pope’s Friend, but mostly, just our neighbor to the south)!!  These are the folks that I KNOW that dad could call at any time, with any problem, and they WOULD be there (they might give him lots of crap about it, and embarrass him to no end for years after (which would probably be justified) … but they would be there!)  There was one other in the past, RDH, that was even willing to take on the cantaloupe guys for dad (and they are also friends of ours! – that’s a good story too … it’s in the works!)!  And, if dad is lucky, one or two more brothers might come about in the future.  You know though, this level of relationship is so special that it has to have pretty strict parameters and definitions – or else it wouldn’t be all that special anymore!!

 

I guess the long and short of all of this is … don’t let folks get away from you!  You have acquaintances, buddies, friends, brothers, etc. (whatever you want to call them) … keep in contact to the level of your relationship!  Don’t let the relationships get stale … stay in touch!  It really is that important!

 

Then of course … and with no disrespect to dad’s BROTHERS … a boy does have to have his Buppies[v]!  No doubt … No thought … That’d be us, the BC’s!!!   We’re here!!! … Some folks think that we really have no choice since the front gates generally stay closed! (but, I can clear the fence from a standing start (star athlete dontcha know), mom-R knows the push button combo to the electronic gate, and we can all make it under the back pasture gate (though Bubba has to wiggle his butt a little bit – Annie can zoom under it at a full run, just let one of those smelly ol’ goats attack dad and you’ll see!).  Yeah, that’s right, we all want to be here – we love our pets (that’d be dad and mom-D) - even though they don’t like rolling in dead skunks!)

 

 

 

 

 

EDITORS NOTE:  Damn, it is hell getting older (I don’t say old, because I think that I’m still fairly young for my age (and getting younger!)!)  I have been thinking lately of the passing this year of some folks that have played a role in my life (these folks have ranged from “work colleagues” to a step brother) … Jim at age 61, Tal at age 50, Don S. at age 71, Wayland at age 72, Larry at age 57, and most recently my friend Butch at age 76 … well, collectively (and individually) … that’s just too young!  Anyway, I was thinking TO them and making sure that I told them all of the folks to meet, and all the hands to shake, and all the necks to hug … I ‘spect when I get there, I’m gonna be busy for a while, too!  That’s ok though … the way I understand it, I will have eternity … guess that will be a prime time to meet a bunch of folks, some which will become friends (maybe even some new brothers)!!  Sometimes, it’s hard to let go, but you have to believe that they are in a better place!!

 

 

 

Following are the lyrics to “Friend Like You” by Mark David Manders (courtesy of http://www.e-chords.com/chords/mark-david-manders/friend-like-you (though I had to work pretty hard to “steal” them, but Cortana really did help me!)) – anyway, RDH and I both really liked this song, even though we weren’t writing songs, weren’t smoking, and had a few other inconsistencies with the references in the song – well, we just thought that the message of the song just fit us … it was bad when we had to clear the “drinking table” off so we could see each other!!!  Damn, I wish for each and every one of you to have a …

 

“FRIEND LIKE YOU”

 

Well I shoulda known better with a friend like you

You'd get me in trouble like you always do

Drop by the house to write a song or two

Then we wind up drunk in the afternoon

 

And we tell a joke, light up a smoke

Laugh about how we're both so broke

And tell each other we're gonna make it someday

One verse to go, and even though

They'll never play us on the radio

Hell we ain't in it for the money anyway

 

Well our friends are all working and they don't understand

Creative juices flow from a 12-oz can

A pile of empties when the day is through

Well I shoulda known better with a friend like you

 

CHORUS

 

Well I better sober up, I've got a gig tonight

You said "Have another" and I said "Alright"

Well I missed my gig, now I guess I'm screwed

Shoulda known better with a friend like you

 

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I miss you man!  He was an EVERY DAY Brother!!!

 

 

 


Some other things to think on …

 

“It’s not how many friends you can count, it’s how many of those you can count on.”

Anthony Liccione

 

“Sometimes, we need a few people in our lives who will calmly call our bluff.”

Dr. Sun Wolf

 

“Most of us don’t need a psychiatric therapist as much as a friend to be silly with.”

Robert Brault
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“Best friends make the good times better and the hard times easier. “

Author Unknown

 

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.  The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”

Henri Nouwen

 

“Friends are relatives you make for yourself.”

Eustache Deschamps

 

“Eventually, if you're lucky in life, you find someone with the same chemical imbalance you have.”

Robert Brault

 

“Nothing but heaven itself is better than a friend who is really a friend.”

Plautus

 

 

 

PS – This applies to “sisters” too!

 

 

 



[i] Cortana is the codename for the newly announced intelligent personal assistant and knowledge navigator for Windows Phone 8.1.  But is Cortana better than Siri?  Read more here:  http://www.computerworld.com/article/2600648/windows-phone-os/is-microsoft-right-does-cortana-cleans-siris-clock.html

 

[ii] Flake:  n.  An unreliable person; someone who agrees to do something, but never follows through.  REF: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=flake  A really good article on “flakers” can be found at http://www.cnn.com/2014/03/11/living/upwave-flake-out/   

 

[iii] Be careful clicking on this link – dad can become possessive with Fabiola (but this is SOOOOO deep, in several ways!):  http://www.abaenglish.com/blog/english-grammar-learn-english-with-aba/day-to-day-sentences-he-is-like-a-brother/

 

[iv] PVF signed off on a text “BFAM” while I was composing this little story  … dad didn’t know what that meant, he thought that is was Big F... A... Moron (the missing words are crudely similar to copulation and sphincter) – PVF informed dad what it meant, I was embarrassed that dad didn’t know!!  Yeah, you guessed it … “Brother From Another Mother”!  How cool is that??!!

 

[v] “You don’t own a dog, any more than you own your life.  If a dog has any intellect, you are best to treat your relationship with your dog as a partnership.  It is all right that you have a majority ownership in the partnership – just remember that it IS a partnership.  He (she) does have the option of quitting you.” -- Dad

 

 

 

 

 

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